Is the sky ever actually that colour?

Why has someone just left their surf board there?

Ooooo fancy pretty beach...

Your brain isn't broken! The system is....

Rewrite the rules and stop pretending to be "normal". Its exhausting!

Let's be honest it's never made sense to your brain anyway and life is too short to be faffing about, so let's get to it!!

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Meet The Tribe (Me..)

Coaching for the Gloriously Neurospicy

Diagnosed, Undiagnosed, and everything in between

Welcome, welcome to Neurospicy Coaching UK

Where we celebrate brains that do things differently. That's the actual truth, not just a fancy strapline!!!

I’m Candy, and I have the delight of being married to a spicy brained man, and have wonderful offspring of both the spicy and not spicy variety. Life certainly isn't dull that's for sure

But what it is, is full of love and a heck load of unique ways of attacking life!

If you're even looking at me (well this page but just indulge me a sec) then you may either be neurodivergent or love someone who is.....? Am I right?

Well I work with neurodivergent women and teens who are done pretending. Done trying to fit their square peg brain into a round holed world, and are ready to step into an unmasked version of themselves

I also help loved ones of neurodivergent children/partners to realise that there is nothing "wrong" with them, life just needs to be adjusted a little differently compared to us neurotypicals

So please, tell me what you need and I can tell you how I can help. No matter how dark it seems now, there's always light, even if you just borrow my torch for a while

I need your help!

Areas of Expertise

Dedaling with overwhelm, burnout and sensory overload

Unmasking (without completely falling apart)

Removing the shame spiral of doom

Building routines that work for YOUR brain (not neurotypical Pinterest worthy ones)

Actually believing, really believing that your brain isn't broken..

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It’s not about changing who you are, it’s about owning it, it all its glorious wonder....

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“I had the privilege of working with Candy, and it was a life-changing experience. Her understanding and support have made a remarkable difference in my life and she does it with sarcastic flare and fun. Have never felt so seen my whole life.”

- Louise

“Candy's coaching has been incredibly impactful on my daughter. She has a unique ability to connect and empower her which is hard for teens.

She is real, and raw and has worked with us as a unit not just my daughter, so we have made changes as a whole team which has been revolutionary for the household”

- Jessica

“Working with Candy has been very unique that's for sure.

She is able to connect with a no BS approach, with fun and laughter.

I genuinely look forward to our sessions as I always come away with insight and know that any growth will be MY doing, but with her support”

- Megan

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Genuinely living my best life.

And I’m doing it unapologetically. I don’t know why but I’ve never fully allow myself to be happy as I’ve felt guilty for it.

But not anymore! I am calling in all the things I want and need and 7 days in they are co-ming!!!!

I however, need a bit of help. I am setting up a neurodivergent friendly movement provision called NeuroMove.

Will be for different age brackets, offering different movement based activities to suit needs and spaces.

If you are a family member or neurodiverse person yourself in order for me to set up some taster sessions I would love to know what YOU would like

It’s all good and well me offering something, but if the community don’t want it…. No point

So if you have 2 mins spare (literally!) please can you click the link in my bio (look at me I’m so down with the kids…..!) future you and mostly me will thank you for it

2026 is the year of the firehorse and it’s not a gentle whisper of intention setting but a drumbeat and a match struck in a dry field.

The Horse already carries speed, independence, truth-telling, movement, and an intolerance for cages. Add the Fire element and everything gets louder, hotter, and more catalytic.

Fire Horse years are associated with radical independence and refusal to be owned, boxed, or tamed

Disruption of systems that rely on silence, compliance, or self-erasure. People speaking truths they’ve been swallowing for years

Sudden pivots, awakenings, and “I can’t do this anymore” energy. Charisma, leadership, visibility, and momentum

A strong reaction against control, shame, and conformity

This year I’m living like the firehorse as my permission slip.

I don’t need to soften my language to be taken seriously and I don’t need to over-credential empathy

I don’t need to centre myself to lead effectively and I won’t be making acceptance of being neurodivergent palatable

Fire Horse years aren’t about burning everything down.

They’re about stopping the slow burn of people destroying themselves to belong.

And that, my loves, is exactly the work I’m doing.

There are ways we abandon ourselves that don’t look dramatic or chaotic and don’t set off any internal alarm bells because they’re so normalised, so socially rewarded, and so often mistaken for being kind, mature, or emotionally intelligent.

Over-explaining so no one feels uncomfortable with our clarity, staying quiet to keep the peace even when something in us tightens, or saying yes too quickly before our body has had a chance to weigh in are all small moments that feel harmless in isolation but quietly teach us that our needs are optional and our boundaries are negotiable.

None of this means you’re weak or doing life wrong, it usually means you learned early that being easy to be around kept you safe, connected, or valued, and that lesson stuck long after it stopped serving you.

The cost, though, is cumulative, because every time you override yourself you reinforce a pattern of self-abandonment that eventually shows up as exhaustion, resentment, burnout, or that low-level sense of being disconnected from your own life.

This year I’m not interested in helping women cope better inside systems that ask them to disappear, I’m here for the slower and braver work of noticing where you leave yourself and choosing to stay, even when it feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar.

You don’t need fixing and you don’t need more discipline or willpower, you need permission to lead yourself without erasing parts of who you are.

I’m curious which one landed for you, because awareness is always the first act of sovereignty.

There I said it.

I have been reflecting for the last 24 hours after my husband and I sat down to talk about him and his needs and helping with some spicy traits he wants to work on

And after us both being really open and at times a bit vulnerable, I can see now that I’ve been a bit of a shitty wife in parts.

A great mum, fabulous housekeeper, pretty decent entrepreneur and a passionate coach for the neurodivergent community

But as a wife, I’ve missed a trick in some places, not all….. but enough to be really pissed at myself .

I am quick to say what hasn’t been done, and roll my eyes when something’s forgotten again.

I go on and on about how everything is affecting me, and that I am drowning and don’t really hold space for him to be allowed to feel the same

I take on more and more and do it all alone and then preach on my martyr hill

And I face him in battle…. Not next to him as a united front

I haven’t appreciated all the hard work he has done to make our house special

I haven’t always taken into consideration the 553256888 tabs that are open in his brain and my stupid request to wash the fucking soup maker is only adding to his nervous system overload

I haven’t always seen the battles he is fighting in his mind just to stay afloat on the bare minimum

And I don’t always remember that it’s not a won’t, it’s a can’t…

Being married to someone who’s brain works in a different language is not always a walk in the park (on both sides!)

So 2026 for me, isn’t just about changing the lives of the neurodivergent community, and implementing adjustments for our daughter

It’s about remembering the wonder of my neurodivergent husband in all is amazing fucking spicy glory

10 years in and it’s still a work in progress but there is no one on this planet I would rather do life with Mr D and I’m blessed to have you by my side as my best friend and equal

It’s ok to admit that what you are doing isn’t great…but when you do it’s criminal if you don’t make the changes necessary especially for people you love

Looking ahead (with audacity and a low tolerance for nonsense)

I’m not heading into the next year with a reinvention arc, a crystal ball, or the belief that I’ll suddenly become the kind of person who “just gets up earlier” and solves everything, because 2025 thoroughly humbled me and also stole my patience for pretending that exhaustion is a personality trait.

The plan is now aggressively reasonable: do work that actually matters, stop carrying other people’s emotional admin like it’s a side hustle, rest before my nervous system files a formal complaint, and say no without cushioning it in three paragraphs and a smiley face.

I want a year where I trust myself faster, over-explain less, build things that don’t require self-sacrifice as an entry fee, and remember that calm doesn’t mean I’ve given up and ease doesn’t mean I’m slacking, it just means I’ve finally learned something.

No glow-up, no grind, no martyrdom, just me doing what I do best with clearer boundaries, better humour, and significantly less tolerance for bullshit.

Cheers to that. 🍾🥂

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Is the sky ever actually that colour?

Why has someone just left their surf board there?

Ooooo fancy pretty beach...

Your brain isn't broken! The system is....

Meet The Tribe (Me..)

Areas of Expertise

So what are you waiting for??...
No masking, No pretending, Celebrate yourself just as you are!

Initial Consultation

Join Our Community on Instagram

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Is the sky ever actually that colour?

Why has someone just left their surf board there?

Ooooo fancy pretty beach...

Your brain isn't broken! The system is....

Meet The Tribe (Me..)

Areas of Expertise

So what are you waiting for??... No masking, No pretending, Celebrate yourself just as you are!

Initial Consultation

Join Our Community on Instagram

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